With the holidays approaching, there will be many opportunities for seasonal events, open houses, or company parties. These gatherings provide a wonderful chance to relax and get together with business acquaintances or co-workers in an atmosphere unhampered by daily work pressures.
The purpose of these events is to take time out, have fun to celebrate the holidays, spend some time with those you don’t get to see very often, or to meet some new and interesting people. Even though these are primarily social events, it is important to be aware of your behavior, and observe good business and networking etiquette.
Admittedly, most guidelines are common sense. However, it’s a good idea to have some reminders so that you can make a positive impression while still having fun. Remember too that first impressions are generally made within twenty to thirty seconds of meeting someone new.
Here are a few do’s and don’ts to keep in mind as you prepare to attend holiday gatherings:
DO: Dress appropriately for the occasion, and be on your best professional behavior at all times. Avoid too much “holiday cheer” or being overly familiar with people you do not know well. You never know who is observing or who knows who.
DO: Have your business cards with you to network, but be low-key and use discretion. Keep in mind that you are attending a holiday event that is primarily for a social purpose, even though people with a business relationship are attending. If you are unemployed, avoid handing out your resume at this time.
DO: Be conscious about helping to connect others. If you are speaking to someone and another person you know approaches, make the newcomer feel welcome by introducing him or her to the person you are in conversation with. When introducing people to one another, offer a brief point of knowledge or interest about each person to the other before you excuse yourself.
DO: Ease awkward moments for yourself and others. If you have forgotten someone’s name, be straightforward but tactful in asking for his or her help to jog your memory. Conversely, if someone seems to have forgotten your name, take them off the hook by offering a handshake, a smile, and a reminder.
DO: Show interest in the other person first, rather than talking too much about yourself. Avoid controversial topics with other guests, or getting on a soapbox for something you feel passionate about. Additionally, you need to be sensitive that everyone does not have the same sense of humor, and avoid any comments that could be taken as offensive or disrespectful.
DON’T: Hover around the bar or buffet table. It may appear that you are either waiting for “prey” or are overly focused on the free food and drink rather than enjoying the people and the event. Help yourself to what you want, and then be gracious to move on and circulate the room.
DON’T: Corner the hosts or other guests with long-winded conversations. Be aware of what is going on around you, and be sensitive to the non-verbal body language of those you are with. If you have a need for a longer conversation with someone, suggest that you follow-up with a phone call or meeting after the event.
